Psychologist: "It 's a mistake to do things that make us unhappy so as not to upset friends and family members'
MILAN -" If you do not get what you want from life, do not turn back, do not point out anyone, do not look around you, but look in the mirror, there you will find the only responsible and also only able to remedy it. Elena Orlandi, psychologist training (www.elenaorlandi.com), wrote a book ("License cares! Practical Guide for honest self-centered," Varia Selfhelp necklace, De Agostini, 14 €, 256 pages) to explain exactly this: change is difficult but not impossible. Each of us, however, thinks Dr. Orlandi, should give up the responses of circumstance (precisely the "who cares" of one who gives up early) to learn to be honest with himself.
"I have seen, over the years, a substantial series of people who suffer because do not feel free to express themselves. Who feel compelled, not to disappoint friends wives, girlfriends, children and gentlemen, to do things that make them happy. But when a person is finally able to admit that sometimes another means to satisfy ourselves unhappy when a person finally succeeds in gaining the self-affirmation can be comfortable. " The problem, says the doctor, is that "when we put ourselves aside, we lose touch with who we are: and here come the difficulties. It is not easy to be selfish in our society, our culture. It takes a lot of work on themselves to stop sacrificing their peace of mind. "
Matthew Persivale
October 22 2010
